My Inner World

What is your experience revealing about your Inner World?

One of my big lessons right now is about letting go and relaxing. I feel it strongly in my physical body. My muscles have been tense and gripping, my energy is drained and my body is hypersensitive. Even when I am supposed to be having fun, I find it hard to “let go” and relax. I’m in protective mode, ready just in case.

I adopted this mode as a young child, growing up with a father who was mentally ill, not knowing what was going to happen next and my sense of safety threatened. Additional traumatic events added on, solidified and strengthened the cloak of safety. The cloak protected me and helped me be alert and ready for whatever was to come.

As I’ve worked on myself and healed on deeper and deeper levels, this cloak has lightened and begun dissipating. There is still some there and it is eager to release. My heightened awareness and discomfort about this “gripping” feeling is my sign that it is time to let it go.

How do I just let it go? It’s been with me for over 20 years. It’s been my way of life. How do I live differently? I don’t know how to be “free”. Well, maybe I do actually. 

Here are a few ideas about how to get there:

Learn from the children. Many children are some of the greatest teachers in letting go and playing freely. They have little cares in the world. They do not worry what others think of them. They just are and love to have fun.

Physically release and let go. Relaxing the muscles and focusing on letting go of the grip through mindfulness, yoga or other physical activities. Intentionally grip and release to encourage relaxation. Take a hot bath and melt away tension.

Deliberately focusing on having fun. Making a point to choose at least one fun activity a week. This is choosing something that gets us laughing and really lights us up inside. The people who share in the activity with us is very important. Being at ease and able to completely be ourselves is necessary.

Energetically releasing the blocks. I am currently not in a life threatening situation, but my energy does not know that, nor does yours. It’s time to go to the source and release and shift the energy that is being stored in our Being. There’s EFT, reiki, NLP and many other modalities one might seek. Discover which one resonates most with you and it may vary depending upon what you are experiencing. I prefer the method taught by Rikka Zimmerman. She guides us to connect with our Higher Self in the higher vibrational state, to release and to let go of the lower vibration that no longer has a place in our experience. We raise ourselves out of the lower vibration so that it is no longer a part of us.

Most importantly for me right now: Self Love. If you look up how to practice self-love, many mention paying attention to your wants and needs, being mindful, taking care of your body, etc. I mean actual love. Accepting ourselves for who we really are, faults, flaws and fabulousness. Instead of being critical and judging ourselves, we view ourselves with love and compassion. While we realize we are not perfect, we focus on enjoying the journey of discovery and growth, rather than focusing on the failures and not measuring up. Relax and know that it is OK. Striving for perfection and “fixing a flaw” overnight is not necessary. By letting go, we actually stop resisting and this makes change much easier. We’re not trying to push through sludge now.

During a time of stress, I sat and connected with my Inner Self. I started doing this breathing exercise. It helped me center myself and let go. As I breathe in, I think “I love myself” and as I breathe out “I am loved.” And as I say “I am loved”, I imagine myself letting go of anything I’ve been stressing about and clinging to that is supporting my “not good enough” belief. I connect with love. And I breathe until it feels complete. I may try going a bit further sometime to see what happens. 

What’s your outer experience revealing? What messages and patterns are showing up? Are you ready to change it? Sign up for a FREE discovery session and take a look at what’s going on. Then, we can discuss what to do about it.